Voer Die Wit Hond

The following is a post I started writing in December last year:

I cried in the car on the way to work this morning.

You’d think I’d be singing and dancing instead, right? I should be. The folks at work have been nothing but kind and welcoming. And the prospect of a decent, regular income is nothing to cry about.

Yet, here I am, coming apart at the seams.

It’s been happening at random intervals over the past week or two and after giving it some thought, I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m depressed.

Apart from half-whispered utterances to my husband in moments of exhaustion, I haven’t used those words to describe my mental state in many years.

But the fact of it is, they fit.

Of course, I know that these feelings don’t just come out of nowhere. They build up and escalate over a period of time, often unnoticed until it all crescendoes into an enormous, dramatic mess.

I’ve been lucky this time in that I picked up on a few clues recently.

On Friday, we had the end of year party at work (I know – how cool are these guys for including me, when I’ve only been working with them for a week, right?). We were thoroughly spoilt as the company treated us to a matinee at Madame Zingara – a big favourite for me! The food was amazing, as always, as was the Merlot I washed my meal down with.

And then I went home and slept all weekend.

And that’s as far as I got with that post.

I cried in the car on my way to work again a few days ago. Apparently, it’s a thing for me.

I don’t plan it. I’ll be driving along like a normal person and, suddenly, my eyes just fill up and spill over while Tony Blewitt talks through mouthfuls of biscuit on the radio and I can’t stop it. So I blink lots to clear away as much blur as I can while I drive and I try to avoid getting tears in my mouth.

Those of you who’ve read my blog since the early days will know I’ve had run-ins with the black dog many times. I always live to tell the tale.

I don’t know why I’ve been feeling this way, so I’m not sure how to fix it. For the moment, I’m just telling people. I tell them that I’m not feeling myself and I don’t know why. I tell them I’m sad about nothing in particular. I tell them that the voice in my head is saying mean things to me. (Okay, maybe I don’t say that bit out loud.)

I talk because putting it out there makes me accountable for how I deal with it. Or, at least, for dealing with it at all. And that’s how I’m getting myself out of bed every day; I remind myself that checking out would be such a pathetic cliche.

I’m not running. Or baking. Or washing my hair as often as I probably should. I’m not bothering with make-up or looking like much. But I’m getting through every day having done enough to pass for functional and, right now, that’s good enough.

 

 

 

 

 

9 Replies to “Voer Die Wit Hond”

  1. Meea… big hugs and thanks for writing this post. Sometimes it does help to write things out to acknowledge them. I hope that you find a way through this and know that we are holding you through the tears.
    I am also tearing up a lot today because of my father but that is an entirely different kettle of fish.

  2. Ah honey I can so relate to this post. I went through a bout of depression years ago. My ex who was my husband at the time didn’t understand and quite frankly neither did I. I would also randomly cry for seemingly no reason and he woukd ask me what’s wrong and I would say nothing and he woukd then reply that sonething must be wrong why am I crying and in between sobs I would say I don’t know. It is quite a horrible feeling of deperate ness. I am here to chat if you need an ear. Big hugs for you xx

  3. As you know, I know that stupid dog very well.

    I think it is good that you are recognising the symptoms and talking about it. Talking is HUGE. Well done.

    Next, medication or counselling.

    You can do this.

  4. Huge hugs. Thank you for telling us. You know that whole ‘naming something gives you power over it’ thing? It works. You’ve named it now you have the power!
    ((((hugs)))))

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